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Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast

May 15, 2022

What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don’t go according to our expectations.   On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After ( answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include:  

  1. How do I feel sexy in my body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer?
  2. How can I stop being anxious about my small penis size?
  3. I’ve noticed a pattern in my relationships that sex with my partner usually stops after 1-2 months of dating. How can I overcome feeling undesirable?
  4. I suffer from vaginismus and have low sexual confidence. How can I stop worrying that my partner isn’t getting the intimacy he craves?
  5. How can I be more confident around initiating sex?


Throughout the episode, we offer countless tips on how to make the shift from performative sex to pleasurable sex. Anyone can be sexually confident, but it does take practice, care and patience.


At its core, sexual confidence is about feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy.


Learning to accept and be grateful for our bodies as “good bodies” can make a huge impact on our perception of any sexual situation, and help to boost our sexual confidence.


Identifying our desires (and fears) and then discussing them openly with our partners can also help to prevent our negative self-talk from taking over in the moment.


Sex is as much of a mental activity, as a physical activity. So start building your sexual confidence by tuning into this episode!